Wednesday, April 15, 2015

From The Being Mary Jane Finale...Why I Think Sheldon is the REAL MVP!

Good Morning Everyone! It's a GREAT DAY! April 15th! It's Jackie Robinson Day for all your Baseball Fans like me! It's Tax Day! It's the VERY Middle of the Month of April. And of course, it's WEDNESDAY...HUMP DAY! It's a great day for sure and God is SO AMAZING! I pray that everyone has an amazing day today!

 THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for everyone that checked out my #DoctoralDecision Blog and for your support and prayers! God truly is amazing and I pray to work hard as I am blessed with the opportunity to pursue my Doctoral Degree at IUPUI for the Urban Education PhD! GOD WILL DO IT! Live your Dreams! Go for them! Believe that they can happen! God bless everyone on today and know that It's The Year Of SHOOT YOUR SHOT! Take your chance to go for your dreams today! GOD IS ABLE TO DO IT!!

So last night was the "Being Mary Jane" Finale on BET. I'm not going to lie, only the first 30 minutes of the show, with Mary Jane getting her promotion to prime time television, and the last 30 minutes of the show, with the dating and then not dating of Mary Jane and Sheldon was the only things worth watching to me. I had written a blog about Being Mary Jane last week on Mary Jane's Relationship ups and downs and how they relate so much on what's going on today. NOW, this dude Sheldon THOUGH...THIS DUDE RIGHT HERE...TO ME...IS THE REAL MVP! This Dude is Everything that Mary Jane wants and needed and she didn't even know it! This Dude reminds me...of well...ME! I'm looking at this show thinking, "This is what MORE MEN need to want to be like!" I'm going to give you the reasons why I think Sheldon is THE MAN!

1. Sheldon was a COMPLETE GENTLEMAN 
& HAD His Stuff Together

Sheldon was a very successful writer and author. Dude had bread, nice crib, successful career. That was everything a Woman like Mary Jane wanted and desired. He was the full package. He had swag, he knew about culture and nice things. THEN, he knew how to treat a Woman RIGHT and with RESPECT! Made sure she had what she needed when she stayed the night, cooked dinner for her, even didn't FLIP OUT when she pissed in his bed while they were sleep! Sheldon was a complete Gentleman to a Woman who didn't even respect it I feel or appreciate it.

2. Sheldon Turned Mary Jane On In Ways 
She Hadn't Been Before

Mary Jane had heard about Sheldon's skills in bed and was instantly turned on. He was a deep talker and thinker. He made Mary Jane think differently about things that intrigued her and it made her want to learn more about him. They were both madly successful and busy but still for themselves staying on the phone late nights talking like they were teenagers. She let go of her Cutty Buddy because she truly wanted to know so much more about this Man and it made her commit to him.

3. Sheldon Wasn't Intimidated By Mary Jane's 
Success or Smart Mouth

Mary Jane had her stuff together and a smart mouth that came with her, and she used that stuff to intimidate weaker men & made them feel below her. Sheldon straight told Mary Jane, "I know that I'm your best option." SHOOT, lets be honest, HE WAS! He was single, had an amazing career and life made for himself. NO, he may not have wanted to get married and have kids, that wasn't the dream and life he wanted for himself, that's what Mary Jane wanted. He was afraid to tell her YES, I want you, but NO, I don't want that type of life with you. It was nothing wrong with him being REAL. NOW, should he have maybe said it differently...possibly. BUT, when a Chick wants to be petty with a Man, like Mary Jane was A LOT, he has a right to be petty right back with her! Checked her with Respect! He didn't get crazy or yell like crazy at her, he spoke his mind and let her know where he stood as a Man. 


Monday, April 13, 2015

The #DOCTORALDECISION VIDEO: Where Will Professor JT Pursue His PhD? Indiana State or IUPUI?

Good Morning Everyone! If you have been following me for a while, you know that TODAY is the day of the BIG DECISION, where I reveal which University I will be pursuing my Doctoral Degree. 
We have graced this event with the title... The #DoctoralDecision! 
I have made a video to announce my Decision! 
I'd like to truly thank Jesus Christ, Ivy Tech Community College, IUPUI, Indiana State University, the City of Indianapolis, and all my friends and family for this amazing opportunity. I want to do this for Black Males like Trayvon Martin and Micheal Brown, who didn't have the chance to pursue their dreams because their lives were cut short. I'm living my Dream and I pray in Jesus Name, that I will be successful and be able to give back to God, His People, and His Communities, all that has been given to me! 
Share this with young people, and let them know that they can do ANYTHING with their lives, with the Help of Jesus!
God Bless and thank you everyone for your prayers and amazing support! 


Wednesday, April 8, 2015

A Question From #BeingMaryJane...Do Women Want THE BRAINS OR THE BRAWN?

Good Morning Everyone! I pray that all is well with you all as we're rollin into Spring and what does Spring Bring...A LOT OF RAIN! Storms upon Storms have been rolling in and I just pray for NO TORNADOES in Jesus Name! Sadly, we saw last night ANOTHER Black Man getting shot down and this stuff just HAS TO STOP! I'm praying for everyone in our country, because we are all WAY to quick to pick up a gun and shot someone, especially the police! I wanted to send an EXTRA SPECIAL SHOUTOUT to my Queen, Ms Melissa, who is Celebrating her Birthday on today! Happy Birthday Beautiful! Have a Blessed day everyone and keep on striving for your dreams! God has some great things in store for us all!

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Another season of Being Mary Jane, a show about the struggles of a Single, Successful Black Woman on BET, is about to wrap up and it's brought some great angles for everyone to relate too. One angle that has been interesting this season is Mary Jane's Dating Life, which has picked up steam since she left the Married Man & Man With A Baby From Another Woman alone! NOW, Mary Jane has not one, but TWO suitors. An out of a contract, buff Football Jock (Brandon) who has been enjoying Mary Jane's Cookie, and an Intelligent Author (Sheldon), who has been making love to Mary Jane's Brain. Both seem to be really into her, but both bring something to the table that the other one doesn't. The Sexual Attraction keep Mary Jane physically excited to Brandon, while the Wit of Sheldon keeps Mary Jane mentally stimulated. We all know that neither of these things, no matter how much a Man wants a Woman, will keep her if she doesn't want to be there with him. 
The question is today, which do Women prefer...
The BRAINS or the BRAWN?

Naturally, all Women are going to say "WELL, SHOOT, WHY CAN'T I HAVE BOTH?" Let me know the LAST TIME a Woman has truly had THE BEST of Both Worlds in a Man. More than likely Ladies, you're going to get more of ONE over the other! It was interesting to see how Mary Jane really wasn't ready to jump Sheldon's Bones, but loved his conversation. Then with Brandon, she really didn't seem too enthused to talk with the Brother, but had no problem getting freaky and naked with him. A lot of times as Men, we have to know which one we probably mostly are going to be and keep that trait going strong. I know ME! I'm a Slim Dude. Always have been and probably always will be. BUT, I was very hardworking, intelligent, and had a great mouthpiece & have always been very well spoken. THAT WAS ME! I didn't try to be nothing else BUT THAT! OK, maybe ONCE I thought I could get some muscles, but that didn't work out too well. Too many times, Dudes feel like they can't be GREAT or appealing to Women because they aren't smart enough or have enough muscles! You have to know your lane Fellas, stay in it, master it, and make it happen for you! Women are just going to like what they like. I posted the question "Would Women have turned down Football Dude Sex for the Older Gentleman's phone conversation?" The MAJORITY of the Women that answered came with a resounding "H*** NO!" Even though, there were a very few "YES's" to the Brains, Women are still going to like what they like and go for what they want when they want it, that's for sure. All I'll say is...DO YOU! BE CAREFUL THOUGH! If you're not into someone other than for their Brains or Brawn, then don't lead people on who really want you for all of you. It's the lifetime struggle of dating we all go through. I just hope that one day, we all find someone we are truly and completely happy with! 

Monday, April 6, 2015

A Final Four/Pre BDay/Resurrection Weekend To Remember In Indy!

Good Morning Everyone! Just a quick Blog today as I give a recap of an exciting Easter/Final Four/Pre Birthday Celebration spent with my Queen Melissa as we took over Indianapolis! From a Pacers game on Friday, to enjoying the Final Four Experiences & Maggianos Birthday Dinner on Saturday, to a great Easter Service on Sunday! God truly blessed & we both had an amazing weekend & I pray that Melissa has a great Birthday week, gearing up for her Birthday on Wednesday, April 8th! 
God Bless everyone today & I hope you all had an amazing Resurrection Weekend! 
READ...SHARE...LOVE! - Professor JT





Friday, April 3, 2015

A Great Friday And Holy Week Messages: Isaiah Austin Says "It's Time To DREAM AGAIN!"

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Good Morning Everyone. You know, I started my Great Friday Messages 3 years ago when I started my Blog, and they have been a consistent for me all these years. It's been a blessing to inspire some many with my Great Friday Messages, and what a truly Great Friday it is as this is the day that Jesus is celebrated for dying on that Cross for our Sins at Calvary. No matter what you have to do today, take time to give Jesus Praise! He didn't have to die for you and me, BUT HE DID! I'm so glad about it today! God bless everyone today! Have an amazing Easter Weekend and celebrate your life that you have because without God, no of us would be here today. Jesus has been THAT GOOD to all of us!

I went this morning to a YMCA Good Friday Breakfast in the City of Indianapolis with special guest Speaker, former Baylor Men's Basketball Player Isaiah Austin. His dream was to play in the NBA. He knew he was going to play in the NBA. His family knew, his friends knew, everyone knew! It was his Destiny right? 6'10, handles like a guard, the Man was blessed and talented. IT was his time to shine, expect for 5 days before the NBA Draft in 2014, when he was told that he was not going to be able to live that dream of playing in the NBA. He was diagnosed with a rare disease, Marfan syndrome, which ended his Basketball career. Since 8th grade, you've been truly one of the BEST Basketball players in the Country. Went to college, and was ready to go to the NBA. BUT NOW, just like that...the dream is GONE! OVER! FINISHED! Now what? The thing with Isaiah Austin was that he had Faith in God. With that faith, now he is going around the World to inspire so many people, telling them, "No matter what comes your way in life...YOU CAN DREAM AGAIN!"

It had me messed up to hear Isaiah's story again, especially in person. I for real almost had tears in my own eyes. To know all that I had gone through and I still get to live my dream of getting my PhD. Why didn't he get to play Ball? He teared up a little bit talking about how his little brother and sister looked at him with tears in their eyes after they found out the news about his disorder. Imagine at 21 years old...the dream you had for so long, was gone, and there was nothing you could do about it. 21 years old, and you don't know what you're going to do with your life. Isaiah Austin retweeted my tweet that I sent out this morning with the pic above, and I took time to thank him on Twitter and sent him a Bible Verse, I Corinthians 2:9 "But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things that God has prepared for them who love him." Isaiah may not know what God has in store for His future, but as long as he continues to love and live for God, everything for him, is going to be alright! SEE, we have to realize, until we are 6 feet deep in the ground, we still have a chance to do great things! WE CAN DREAM AGAIN! NO, the plans that we have for our own lives may not work out, but God still has great things in store for us. I'm praying for Brother Isaiah Austin, and I thank God for him today. I even needed his story today. I needed to be reminded that not everything that I want, is exactly what God has for me. I can't get disappointed if it doesn't happen, because my thoughts are not His Thoughts and my ways are not His Ways. God thoughts and ways are WAY better than I can even fathom. So we can't trip out when things don't go our way. We really need to THANK GOD, because God is still in control. I want everyone to take some shots at things this year of 2015 out into the deep! Let God lead you in all that you do and know that so many great things are in store for us all if we have faith, keep going, believe, and faint not when things get rough. READ...SHARE...LOVE! PROFESSOR JT

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

Holy Week Messages: Learn That There Is POWER In Forgiveness

Good Morning Everyone! HAPPY APRIL! I praying that these soon to be April Showers will bring us Many May Flowers! It's suppose to be almost 70 in Indianapolis today! BRIGHT, SUNNY, IT FEELS GOOD! I want people to continue to enjoy life and I hope that you have enjoyed the last two days of Holy Week Messages as we're rolling on with another one today! God bless everyone and know that your time of VICTORY is near! Hold on, keep the faith, don't give up! You've made it THIS FAR...KEEP ON GOING! God bless!

As we are rolling through 2015 and we have already been through a quarter of the year, it's a great time to reflect on what all we have done so far this year and look forward to what we want to do next. A big thing that helps us continue on stronger than ever in life is forgiveness. It's hard, GOD KNOWS it's hard, but we have to do it if we want to move forward in our lives. Since I Graduated with my Masters in 2007, there has been a lot that has happened in my life in the last 8 years. I grew up FAST, I had too. I thought I was on top of the World in 2007. Masters Degree, Kappa Alpha Psi Alumni Chapter Member, Single, First Real Career Job I Got. I had my own apartment RENT FREE, free food, a car with no car payment. You couldn't tell me NOTHING! In the first 3 months of my job, I already had $1,000 in my Savings Account. I was Living The Dream! THEN, I got humbled. A few bad relationships, was between jobs, money got tight, food got low, had to move several times, friends and even family left me hanging. I had to realize real quick that not everyone that says they are for you and love you, are really in your corner. People that I loved and adored for years, walked out on me, talked about me, tried to ruin and slander my name. All I wanted to do was help them and love them, but even those things don't keep people around and prevent them from turning on you. There were a lot of  "WHAT IN THE WORLD?" days and looks I had on my face. "GOD, IS THIS FOR REAL?" Women I had slept NEXT TOO, ended up becoming some of my biggest enemies. At the end of the day, no matter how bad it hurt or that they hurt me, even in the things I may have did, I had to learn if I wanted to move forward in my life, I had to forgive them and myself.

Ecclesiastes 7:8 says "Better is the end of a thing, than the beginning thereof..." We have to take the time in life to END MATTERS! Whether it's forgiving in our hearts or forgiving others through text or phone calls. It might HURT, but we have to forgive! Those people that hurt us may NEVER even ever forgive US for what they did. It doesn't even matter. You have to be responsible over your own soul salvation. So many of us are holding onto past hurts and pains and wonder why we can't move on with our lives. We can be happy in present and future relationships, because we have never gotten over the relationships of our past. Stuff bothers us all so much sometimes, just to see the person's face, see their social media pages, even see their numbers pop up on our phones instantly makes us upset. That means...we haven't forgiven them yet! We have to learn how to forgive people! How do you know when you've forgiven someone? No matter if you see them, no matter if they even do anything crazy to you, whatever contact that you have with them after you have forgiven where you just smile and bless them, that's when you know you've forgiven them. It's time to work on forgiveness today as we're moving into April. It's Holy Week! No better time than now than to get back right in your Spirit and let it go! Let all the pain and hurt go and move on with your life! God bless everyone! Move on and move forward and God will always forgive you, even with all that you do. Just learn to forgive others! 

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Holy Week Messages: A 1/4 Of 2015 Gone! How Special Are You Making Your Life?

Good Morning Everyone! We are continuing on with our Holy Week Messages and I pray everyone was encouraged by the great youth dating message on yesterday. Continue to strive everyday for greater and better with all that you do in your life. NO, things aren't going to be perfect, but with some patience and some faith, EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT! Believe in what you do and believe in yourself! Know that God has everything worked out for you! God bless Everyone on today!

As we're already at the last day of March, it's a true wonder of where in the WORLD has 2015 gone already. We've pretty much...PRETTY MUCH gotten through the Winter. In the Midwest, there's still no telling really. It can snow tomorrow, who knows! It wasn't a bad Winter overall weather wise...unless you lived on the East Coast and well, we're still praying for you all out there! The thing was, it seemed like as excited as we all were for 2015 to come in after a wild 2014, the craziness didn't really seem like it stopped until around Mid February/March for a lot of people. JANUARY WAS ROUGH! I saw people in January in situations where it was nothing but God that they even survived and made it to February. FATHER IN HEAVEN! It's one of those things where at the end of 2014, a lot of people were like "WELL, it can't get much worse that THIS!" Then, came January and BOOM, IT GOT WORSE! But I want to encourage someone today and say, "Look at where you are NOW!?" You're looking good, still here, still in your right mind! As hard as things get sometime for you...BABY, YOU ARE MAKING IT! God still is blessing you and yours! You may not have much, but you got SOMETHING going on and going for you. See, we have to really take time to thank God, especially this week because it's Holy Week! Find it not strange that Holy Week is the same week a Month is ending and another Month is beginning! No matter what may have happened in your past, how special are you making your life today?

1 Thessalonians 5:18 says "In Every thing Give Thanks; for this is the Will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you." See, we have to realize, no matter the good or bad that comes in our lives, God's got us either way it goes. God told me a few days ago, "ENJOY TODAY!" We get so caught up sometimes looking so far ahead, that we don't even get to enjoy the days that we're living right now. I had to check myself, because I was always looking so far forward, to the days where I was doing what I wanted to do and money got better, that I was just trying to get passed every single day so fast. I would do as little as I could to try to make the days go by faster, to get to the days that I wanted too, not realizing, I'm missing out on valuable time to make my days today very special. It's time out for missing out on TODAY! What are we doing with our lives today and how are we making our lives special today? YES, we see greater days ahead, but even the Word of God says in Matthew 25:23 "His lord said unto him, Well done, Good and faithful servant; thou has been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord." We get sometimes so caught up in the kind of money we want to make one day, the car and home we want one day, that we don't even enjoy the ONE DAY that we have RIGHT NOW! NO, the money isn't where we want it to be. NO, we're not driving what we want or living how we want. But are you THANKFUL for what God is doing in your life for you RIGHT NOW? See, God can't bless us with BETTER, if we don't appreciate the BEST of what we have right now! It's time to Carpe Diem...SEIZE THE DAY! As we all continue with the rest of 2015, as we're about to enter into another Month Lord's Willing, learn how to enjoy every day that you have! NO, life isn't where you want it to be right now, but thank God that you have a life to live! All of us know somebody that entered 2015, but they are not even here still on this Earth after 3 months. Thank God that you're still here and enjoy every single day that you have on God's Earth! You are Great and God has Greater in store for you! BELIEVE IT! RECEIVE IT! 
Enjoy Every Single Day Of Your Life! 

Monday, March 30, 2015

Holy Week Messages:Reviewing Karrueche Tran on Iyanla's FIX MY LIFE - Prayers for Young Daters

Good Morning! It is HOLY WEEK and I pray that everyone is excited about the great things that are in store as we count down the days to Good Friday and Easter Sunday. I'm looking to have a week's worth of Holy Week Messages, to encourage people in these tough days and times as we lead up to the Crucifixion and Resurrection Celebration of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. WE KNOW, WE don't really do too much CHURCH throughout the year, and you know what, IT'S OK! Just make sure on THIS SUNDAY, you remember and pay tribute for what God did for us all on that Cross, and how He rose again just to save a wretch, like you and me! God bless everyone on this week! Find time to Give God Praise This WEEK! Know that God is always here for you and no weapon formed against you shall prosper.

On Saturday night, OWN Network had an exclusive episode of "Iyanla Fix My Life" with the interview of Ex Girlfriend of Entertainer Chris Brown, Karrueche Tran. A Young, Pretty, Up and Coming Model, Karrueche Tran wanted to talk to Iyanla about how she could start the healing process to get over the tumultuous relationship that she had with Chris Brown. I'll be honest with you folks, at first, I had a lot of jokes. Here we have a young girl, who got caught up with an Entertainer and just knew she was going to be the one for him. Iyanla started to get into the situation with Karrueche and she was hesitant about revealing all of her feelings and emotions about the relationship. After a while, once Karrueche started to open up, you could start to see how this wasn't just about a situation happening to this young woman. My friends, THIS HAPPENS with SO MANY young couples today! A Guy, making promises, saying he loves a young woman, and of course, she believes him. A Woman, falling for "THE GAME" or "THE LINES". I listened, and I mean really listened to her speak in that interview. "I thought they were just FRIENDS." "I found out about it on the internet." "He said he would be right back." "He was so nice and genuine too me." "I knew his history, but he was so different to me." All these things that young men say to young women to make them so call "Fall In Love" when actually, they are opening up themselves to so much pain, hurt, and devastation.

The situation we have here in not uncommon, not one bit. So many Women have or have had a "Chris Brown" type around them who even though they may know how she really feels about him, he's really not all the way invested. The thing about the show that really bothered me was the fact that not too much was brought up about the character or the person of who is Chris Brown. So many people will support you when you're with certain people, and even they know how much of a hurt person that they really are. Christina Milian was on the show talking about her friend Karrueche and how she stayed pretty much out of the relationship situation. BUT WHY, THAT WAS YOUR FRIEND RIGHT? If you saw her getting hurt, why didn't you step in and help your friend. I don't believe for ONE MINUTE that she didn't see ANYTHING! Hurt people...Hurt other people. I do not think at all that Chris Brown meant to hurt this young woman in any bit. I do think however that Chris Brown is hurting himself. That's the's a vicious cycle of hurt people hurting others. Before we know it, no one trust anyone, no one wants to date anyone anymore, and all we have are a lot of Single, Bitter, Angry people. 

I truly want to pray for our Young Daters today and ask them today to do what it says in Matthew 6:33 "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and His Righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you." I pray that God reveals early to our young people who they are dealing with. SURE, they may look good, have money, fame, look like they will give you the World. BUT WHAT IS GOD SAYING ABOUT THEM? Get on your knees and ask God to reveal who you're with. Ask God, "If this isn't who you would have for me to be with, show me and allow me to get away from them before they hurt me." Even pray for that person, that they even become better for their futures. A person's history tells a lot about them. I'm not saying people can not change, but do not avoid the Red Flags early. YES, we want to give people a chance because they make mistakes, but you can truly see how much someone cares about you, through their actions. 

This Young Woman was told by this guy "I'll be right back..." and saw pictures of him on the internet with another Women at a Basketball while she was chillin at his Condo!! STILL STAYED WITH HIM! It's time for young women and men to know that you deserve the very best from someone you're going to be with. Not someone who is going to cheat, lie, and do things to hurt you. NO, we're not all perfect, but if someone does something to you to hurt you, are their apologies sincere? How many times are they going to do it before they get it right? I commend this young woman Karrueche Tran for reaching out for help. I pray to GOD she doesn't go back to this Man! YES, she may have wanted a Baby and she better truly be THANKING GOD she didn't have Chris Brown's Baby! If he wasn't trying to marry you Lady, you are in the best position you can be in! GOD BLESSED YOU KARRUECHE TRAN to walk away free and continue on with your life. Take it as a 15 Minutes of Fame Moment! KEEP ON MOVING FORWARD! That's my message today. Young People, KEEP ON MOVING FORWARD! Stop trying to make things work with people who aren't meant to be with you. LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE HARD! HARD WORK...YES! But difficult, having you crying and stressed out, DEFINITELY NOT! THAT'S NOT LOVE! Lets do better with our hearts and souls today and know that not everyone deserves a chance at being in your life. You deserve nothing but the best that God has for you and the person God has for you will give you the very best and want the very best for you! READ...SHARE...LOVE! - PROFESSOR JT

Friday, March 27, 2015

A Great Friday Message: It's All Going To Work Out FOR YOUR GOOD!

Good Morning Everyone! It's FRIDAY! The end of the month is near! IT Doesn't FEEL much like Spring YET! We here in Indy are about to drop down to 18 degrees tonight! 18! Didn't the season's change last week? GEEZ SPRING TIME, COME ON!! I'm ready for some consistent warm weather, that's for sure! BUT, HEY, I'm still here to see it, and I'm glad about it! I pray that everyone has one amazing weekend! Keep on pushing towards those goals and dreams! You Greatest Days Are AHEAD OF YOU! Never forget about it! God bless!

I've seen a lot happen for me in the Month of March and all I can say is that God's been truly good. It all seems so surreal...ME...headed towards working for a PhD in the Fall. I'm not going to lie, I don't feel like I deserve this opportunity at all, you know? I even asked God, "Why Me?" I see people working hard for things every single day and don't get there. But, this was a dream I had, and I got there. NOW, lets be honest, there were MANY, and I MEAN MANY days when it didn't seem like at all I would EVER get to this point. The days of no food, staying with people, crazy romantic relationships, people who came in and out of my life. IT...GOT...CRAZY! I just want to encourage everyone today that whatever you have gone through or are going through's all going to WORK OUT! It truly may not look like it or hasn't even looked like it for a while, but just keep doing what you have to do to succeed. 

In the Word of God, 1 Corinthians 2:9, It says that "Just as it is written, eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things God has prepared for them that love him." I love the Lord! Absolutely, Positively DO with my entire being! You can't make me DOUBT HIM, I know too much ABOUT HIM! If you would have told me, as a young man about to graduate from High School 15 years ago (Yes, I just showed my age) that I would be looking at starting in a Doctoral Program, creating and teaching college classes, and writing blogs & articles that travel the Globe in 2015, I truly would have looked at you like you were insane! ME, are you serious? The thing is, God had a plan for ME, that was BIGGER than even I could have seen for myself. That's what I want people to realize today. What God has for you, IS FOR YOU! You're Greater than you realize! God can use anyone to make a difference in the World. And to be honest today my friends, God wants to use YOU! God wants to take you, with all your faults, all of your mistakes and imperfections, and use you to do great and amazing things for His people and for His World. You have more greatness in you than you will ever imagine! Just LISTEN to God. God will lead and guide you to amazing places in your life that you never even imagined being at for yourself. Just be patient. It's all going to work out! Some things just have to have time to fall into place so when God moves you, it's a smooth transition into to Glory that He has set for you! God bless everyone today! Tomorrow is not promised, so it's imperative that you make the right decisions TODAY! Allow God to order your steps and know that your latter will be greater than you past! READ...SHARE...LOVE! - PROFESSOR JT

Thursday, March 26, 2015

WILL I EVER FIND SOMEONE? The Relationship Struggles of the Good Man And The Good Woman

Good Morning Everyone! It's Thursday and Thursday's are always those..."Why is there a Thursday?" type of days. It's day between the middle of the week and the end of the week. Can't we just SKIP Thursdays and get to Fridays? Have you ever thought that? LOL! Well, I guess if it's your pay day, you NEVER want Thursdays skipped! I hope that everyone has a wonderful Thursday and hang on in there as we're nearing the end of the week and the end of another great month. God bless everyone today and know that your GREATER is truly on the way!

There are a lot of people in relationships that really make you wonder..."How did THEY get a Bae?" Sometimes it's just good not to ask to questions and just keep it moving. Then, there are some folks that you just can't figure out for the LIFE of you, why no one is with them? They are GOOD PEOPLE! And I know being a GOOD PERSON is subjective (S/O to Lauren on Twitter who always reminds us all of this) but it's still always the thing that you wonder. Folks who look nice, take care of themselves and their family, friends, and business. Have their stuff together and are actually dating and marriage material type of people. NOW, there is ALWAYS something wrong about SOMEONE! No one is perfect. BUT, we do have some great people who just can't find other great people for so many different reasons. They aren't in a dating type of city, their schedules don't allow them to meet other good people, they really aren't comfortable with the online dating scene, etc etc. What about a person's strong religious beliefs, what if their standards are very high, what if they come with certain baggage that may be hard for others to deal with? There are several scenarios that keep Good Men and Women SINGLE, but what about the things they have to see everyday and deal with from possible mates? 

There are several things I feel every proclaimed Good Man and Good Woman face when it comes for seeking, needing, and wanting a suitable mate. So many questions these individuals have that never go or get answered and sometimes leaves a lot of people wondering "IS IT ME??" In some cases, it just may BE! But here are some of the things a Good Man or Good Woman may go through that leave them having many questions:

1. The SETTLE Factor: Should they take what is in front of them or continue to wait for BETTER? YES, they have OPTIONS, but maybe the options don't have everything they truly desire or look for in a mate. Exs: They're a GOOD FRIEND, but not a good provider. They work hard, but they're not very romantic. They have their stuff together, but they don't dress well or speak well enough to your liking. It's several things that we go through in our minds that keep us from being with certain people and it's all about preferences.

2. The Grass Greener Elsewhere Factor: They COULD be with THIS PERSON, they REALLY COULD! But, the question will always be if they end up with this person, are they missing out on who they REALLY could be with. Is there better out there (like eluded too in the first point) If there IS, will it be better than what they have now? What if they move away from the SETTLE FACTOR for the Greener Grass and the Greener Grass is TRASH?!?! Will they miss out on someone special waiting for someone who wasn't special at all?

3. The Career/Job Factor: A Big Factor of why a lot of good people are GOOD PEOPLE is because they have their careers/jobs together. SURE, they can move to a better dating place, but a lot of questions pop up. Will the money be as good as they have it? Will the move really be a GOOD career move? Will the dating scene ACTUALLY BE BETTER? Even if these individuals find someone, is the move going to be positive or negative towards their future careers?

4. The Standards Factor: A lot of Good People have some VERY High Standards. SURE, they have given people chances, letting some things slide. At the end of the day, it really seems like that it is never worth it because those things that you end up letting slide in the beginning, always end up upsetting you because you let them slide for these people in the end. The are the Non-Negotiable standards that they will NEVER let slide. Ex: - If it's a person who is very religious, they may not want to be with an atheist. If a person has a child, they can't be with someone who doesn't love or want kids right? Then there are the negotiable standards...we all move on from time to time. What we have to be careful of is not dating on POTENTIAL! They SAY this is what they want sometimes just to appease us to be with us because they know that's what we want in a mate. Have to always watch out for the Opportunist who want to fake meet our standards just so we can help them meet some of their goals.

5. The Family And Friends Factor:  The DREAD is REAL around the Holidays for the Good Woman and Man. The questions come rolling in all the time "So, who are you talking too?" "When are you going to settle down?" "When are you going to have kids?" "Well, is something wrong with you?" "Let me hook you up with my FRIEND!" The questions become so tiring. You always dread going places because you always know Auntie or Uncle is going to ask, knowing it's not going to make you feel any better. Then they want to hit you with the ADVICE, like they hadn't just got out of their 3rd marriage. Sometimes it's just best with family and friends to keep the conversations short and quickly change them to something else. The less they know about your relationship life, the BETTER!

6. The Out And About/Internet Factor: A lot of Good People have so much going on in their lives, it's hard for them to get out and about to meet other good people. Think about in a typical week what all you do: Go to work, go home, maybe a side job or community event here and there, church, maybe dinner with friends and family on the weekend. All of these people's moves during the week have purpose and a lot of these move's purpose IS NOT to meet new people. The Dating Sites are there, but they cost money or take time to set up. After you do ALL OF THAT, you realize that you might just know all the people on there anyway through someone else or 3 degrees of separation. WHAT'S THAT JT? I'm glad you asked! YOU, know someone, who knows someone, who knows someone else probably in your city if you've grown up there or lived there long enough. At the end of the day, everyone is connected to someone. So, the person you may meet, MIGHT just be a cousin of a friend of yours from High School. TRUST ME, I've seen it happen! So, it's about these people finding new places to explore just to meet new people. Even when you GET THERE, it's the mingling that is SO HARD. You get to a new place and your senses are looking for WHO you can even talk too. "OK, they look good, but they look stuck up!" "They are SEXY, but not tall enough or I don't like their voice/teeth/height" Folks will go through a SAT test in their heads about a room of people and before you know it, they have X'd out everyone who they wanted to talk to and are now sitting in a corner by themselves sipping a DRINK! 

7. The "IS IT ME?" Factor: There are so many Relationship Coaches out here now where everyone has tips to solving the Dating Whoas of Good People. "WELL, if you do THIS or try THIS, they you'll find someone!" People spend TONS of money and time trying to make themselves better when actually, there really may be nothing wrong with them at all! There's nothing wrong with bettering one's self, but there's always the question is it the person themselves on the inside that it's the reason they are single? They talk to people, read articles and books, attend socials and events. Does any of it really work and help? YES, some of us all have insecurities that if we don't try to date, we really don't ever find out about ourselves because who knows what's really wrong with you better than someone who you start to date? Even the people you date start to shy away from you because you start to bring up an ex or your conversations start getting boring, forceful, or even kind of depressing. Folks like to tell you about yourself when the relationship is nearing the end in spite, but sometimes, the stuff is true. Forcing one's self to find reasons of why they might be single isn't always the answer, but it does answer a lot of questions. It's a dilemma a lot of Singles go through.


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