Good Morning Everyone! I am blessed & excited to see another day. It's rainy & wet here in Indianapolis, but thank God it's not SNOW! I pray that you all have a wonderful day and God has so much in store for YOU!
I saw an interesting video on yesterday from my good friend, Relationship, Life, & Passion Coach Ms. Abiola Abrams (@abiolatv) entitled "Single Women Will Die Alone!?" Success, Marriage, Dating, & Love! It discusses Statistics on Black Men & Black Women & how even though we want to be together, we aren't actually getting together until later in life, seemingly in our 30's! Take a look at this video!
Marriage & Caste In America about more shocking Relationship Statistics was another suggestion of a book that I was told to check out by a great Twitter friend of mine out of Chicago, Ms. Paula (@grooveparlortv) Even some Articles, like this one from The Shooting Range, suggest that Statistics are irrelevant when it comes to Black Relationships! (http://www.theshootingrange.net/1718/why-statistics-irrelevant-when-discussing-black-relationships.php) So how does all of this makes you feel? Some of us maybe if we would have heard these shocking statistics, we maybe would have waited on some things that we did in our 20's. OR WOULD WE? We all get so caught up of wanting love, wanting to be in love, and all of these emotions & feelings of what we say and think love is, that we have given our hearts to SUCKERS and got it broken over and over again before we even hit the age of 30. WHEH! That was a long sentence, but you know I'm telling the truth though! Not only that, but we have tried to play house and marriage so many times, thinking that we can trust people with our money and credit & they have jacked it all up, that we aren't even ready financially to get married once we get into our 30's. It's interesting because we want something so bad, love, which we aren't even ready to embark on at every level. Spiritually, in our 20's, sometimes we are still trying to find ourselves in Christ. Financially, we are still in our 20's trying to establish our credit and financial history. Emotionally, we are still trying to go from being a child to becoming an adult. So why do we feel like that we are so ready to LOVE when we need to be honest and say that we really are not ready for LOVE?
Men at that age are still looking and searching to see what type of a Woman that they really want to be with. I'll be honest and say if a young man or woman are locked into relationships in their 20's, they will hit their thirties still trying to date hard because honestly they never had a dating time in their lives. These are the people who may have been in 3-6 years relationships and never got to have those Club & Party stages we all had. So in their 30's, they are still trying to go out while all their friends are at home with their husbands and wives. Oh, and by the way, trying to possibly balance a relationship, kids, career/job, BAGGAGE BASICALLY! We all have friends like those. From a Man's Perspective, a Man has options upon options, when a Woman depending where she is lives, may have 0 options in dating men in her eyes. So while a Man is trying to be a Player, a Woman is trying to hold down her one Man and keep all the other Women off of Him!
I tweeted yesterday that "Everyone is single for a REASON..." Regardless on what the reason is, and there are 100's, everyone is SINGLE FOR SOME REASON! All I want at the end of the day is to see happy people together, forever! But is it easier to work through a lifetime of problems with one person, or just date several people, never committing to anyone? It's all up to us! At the end of the day, we either need to be happy with SOMEONE, or just stay single and date. Don't be with several people at one time. You'll end up broke, unhappy, and hurt because everything just isn't meant to be, especially you with several different people! We just have to be honest with ourselves! It's cool to DATE, but if that person just doesn't seem to be jelling with you, don't force it, you'll know pretty early in dating. If you're an on time person & they are always late, if you're a clean, organized person & they always have dirty & unorganized living arrangements, if you are big on church & they are big on parties & the club, then my friends, those may not be the people for you. Even if it is two church folks, two club folks, two organized folks, you can see tons of similarities in the beginning, but time will show if you can deal with all the differences. So, in my eyes, I'm happy to see many single people! If you are just not in a place to be in a relationship, THEN STAY SINGLE! Don't get desperate! Marriage can be a BEAUTIFUL THING! The people who don't rush it or even worry about it, usually are the ones who get it! Love God, Love One Another, and truly people will have no problem loving you! READ...SHARE...LOVE! - PROFESSOR JT